Goals

Do Something Everyday That Scares You

Aside | | Beth James

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Everyday we have the opportunity to scare ourselves or in better words do something out of our comfort zones. That doesn’t have to mean base-jumping or jumping out of a plane, because who has time for that everyday!

But it is important to do little things to show your self that you are capable. Most of the time you will start doing something and realise it is a lot easier than you thought it would be.

Most recently for me, I get so scared about walking to the other side of the gym, the dark side. Where the boys go and grunt and look at them selves in the mirror. But I get so uninspired by hours of cardio and sticking to the matt surrounded by a myriad of small colourful girly weights and Swiss balls.

So what do I do? stay where its safe?

No, I’ve become quite stubborn, I don’t like the idea that there is a whole area and a different method of working out, which I dont do because I’m  ‘too scared’. So every time I don my lycra I push past the worry and strut across to the big boy weights, like a strong girl in the know! I pretend to be any way!

The funny thing is, I get scared because I think that the boys would laugh at me, because I’m lifting smaller weights and other riduculous things like that. But most of them are so self-absorbed they don’t even care, or notice I’m there! So plug those headphones in, get those tunes on and get involved, it’ll make you feel better. If your proud of yourself after, then you’ve done the right thing.

Or if you’re not a gym bunny, there will be something, that you would like to be better at, dedicate at least 5 minutes to it a day! A bit of yoga, set your self a push-up challenge, drawing, it could be saying no to people, who ask to much of you. It could be anything that is a bit of a challenge for you but something that you know, you would love to be good at!

 My lovely boyfriend for example, He is very stubborn man. He decided one day that he would like to be able to a handstand, so little by little he practiced and practiced and now whenever and wherever he can sure enough he will be showing off his impressive hand standing skills!

 I would love to get him doing yoga; he would be so good at it! But he is an incredible example of just getting on with it and progressing. His motto is every little helps!

I do the same with yoga, and I set myself reading challenges as I would love to read faster. Trying to better yourself can be a powerful activity, give it a go, don’t do it for anyone else but you.

 It doesn’t have to be something you practice everyday either it could be just standing up for you self a little more, Is there someone who pushes you around, or takes advantage a little too much, then don’t let them take your power.

If it scares you to stand up for yourself, build your confidence and stick up for yourself. Use self-affirmation and don’t worry about what other people think of you. If they don’t respect you for doing the right thing for yourself then they are probably not worth it. They are probably a drain.

 I decided a long time ago that there are two types of people: DRAINS & RADIATORS.

 Drains just channel shit and drama; they come in to your life cause shit then move on to cause trouble somewhere else. Don’t hang on to these people, let them do their thing. They might be pleasant enough but just cause too much hassle to invest in.

 Radiators will keep you warm, these are the people you really connect with, these people you will form proper relationships with, that will be there for you even if you move to the other side of the world, or not talk to them for 10 years!

 It’s pretty easy to categorize your friends or colleagues in this way, you just have to ask your self would they stick their neck out for you if you needed it? Yes? Then Radiator, if not than drain. If you’ve decided drain then don’t worry about them too much. Who knows they might suddenly start to make more of an effort and prove themselves to be a secret radiator!

But if not then their loss, they will just flow on to the next U-bend!

 What I am saying is that you need to do things for yourself, the little things, increasing our knowledge and skills are an amazing way to learn and progress.

If you are like me and need a little confidence going to the dark side of the gym check out this lovely lady Erica, she lost a whopping 120 Ibs in 13 months! she is a huge inspiration for me. She has also written some mighty cool Ebooks which were super cheap and inspired me heaps, so if you need a little push grab her ebooks!

 http://ericafitlove.com/

Beth’s Guide To Manifesting your Goals

| Beth James

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I’ve said in the last few posts that I use visualization to get what I want from my life.

Well that’s all well and good, but how??I hear you say!How am I supposed to apply that to my life!?Well don’t get disgruntled!

 I have had a think and have complied a little guide to manifesting your goals through visualization.

♥ Beth’s Guide To Manifesting your Goals ♥

 

Step 1. Use all your senses! When you’re visualizing the life you want use sounds, sight and even smell!

Imaging where and how you want to be think about what sort of sounds, and smells you will experience!

If you are visualizing going away, being on a quiet island listen to gentle waves and visualize the sand between your toes. Feel the emotions that you will feel when you have achieved your goals. Let them posses you. This will make it feel more really and believable to you, you need to take the dream element out of it and have total faith that it will happen.

Step 2. Take different angles when visualizing, for example firstly imagine yourself how you want to be, then imagine yourself once you have reached your goal from the eyes of a friend, or even someone who doesn’t know you and hasn’t seen your transformation.

I guarantee that it will make you feel wonderful! Or imagine your transformation from the eyes of someone who doubted you, someone you don’t see ‘eye to eye’ with! Imagine that feeling!

 

Step 3. Begin to life your live as if you had already succeeded in your dreams!

How would you dress? Talk? And think about the world around you? Would you be more positive? Would you worry less? Have a think about how you would change and begin the process.

Begin to talk like the new and improved you, begin to shift your thinking as if you are already the successful person you want to be!

If you have a bad day or a bad thought, let it wash over you and forget it, everyday is an opportunity to start a fresh. Everyday is a step towards your goal.

 

Step 4. Big yourself up all the time! Affirmations!

Think about what people will say about you, behind your back, in a good WAY dont thik about any other way,

‘Wow she is glowing’ ‘I can’t believe she has lost so much weight’ ‘Or isn’t Beth so lucky she has the man of her dreams’ ‘It must be so easy for Beth, she just attracts money!’ what ever it may be for you, Thoughts like that can be very positive. I do it all the time; it definitely makes me feel better!

Whatever you want in your life think it into reality. Visualize people coming to you asking you for advice on the things you want! ‘How did you lose weight?’ ‘How did you get the confidence to run a marathon’ Etc

Always big yourself up, write it down, write about how you love your ability to make friends or attract money into your life! Say it out loud to yourself in the mirror.

In The Master Key System a book by Charles Haanel he talks about personal affirmations, the one he suggest I think is wonderful and I have incorporated into my life.

The affirmation is: I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy! Say it loud, say it proud! Even if you don’t believe you will eventually start to!

 

Step 5. GRATITUDE!!

Get in the attitude of gratitude! Once you are thankful for the things that you have, you will receive more of those things. Start the day with gratitude; be thankful for the day ahead.

Be thankful for your strong body or your ability to learn or to read fast etc anything that is relevant to you.

Remember that what you focus on you bring about; try not to complain about the elements of your life you don’t like, focus instead on those elements that you do and attract similar situations and the bad things will just fade away!

I personally have a gratitude book, which I write in most days and it helps me to focus my thoughts on what I want in my life. I put down everything that I am grateful for in my life. Every time I write those things down and put pen to paper it puts me in a good mood, it helps me to visualize and attract more good feelings to myself.

Step 6. A Vision Board, make yourself a vision board!

They are such a powerful and useful tools, find pictures and symbols of the things that you want and situations you want to attract into your life.

It doesn’t have to be big you could have a few different ones for different areas of your life.

The most important thing is that you look at it a lot, so whether you make a virtual one on your computer and make sure you look at it everyday, or you make one that you put in your bedroom so you see it everyday, it doesn’t matter! Whatever works best for you, but they are incredibility powerful to help you repeatedly focus on your goals!

John Assaraf in the Secret movie talks about his visions board, He tells the story of his vision boards being packed away in boxes for 5 years whilst he was moving. The boxes where brought to his new house and his son asked what was in them, he explained that they were his vision boards. His son didn’t really understand what he meant, so he got them out the boxes. As he took picked one of the boards out he started to cry, because there was a house on one of his boards that was the house, the very house that he had just bought!!!! He hadn’t even realized that it was the same house; He had attracted his dream house and not even realized!!

Remember to look at your board and feel the feelings of already having achieved your goals! That is what will help bring them closer to you.

Happy Manifesting!